Losing Hope?

Leaving the Jehovah’s Witnesses (or any high control group) is one of the hardest things anyone can do. Once you wake up, you cannot unsee what you’ve seen. It becomes all-but-impossible to continue.

But it also leaves a big blank space where your entire life was. It’s entirely normal to feel isolated, confused, guilty or depressed.

Understanding Depression & Suicidal Feelings

You’ve gone from a life where you had ‘the truth,’ every question answered, every path laid out, to one where you’re left wondering who you are, what’s real and what’s not, and most of all, what comes next. That’s not a trivial adjustment.

Grief and confusion can spiral into despair, but they can also be the first steps toward building a truly authentic life filled with people who not only accept you as you are but love you for who you are. It’s an outcome worth fighting for.

You are not alone. Many of us have stood where you are now, feeling the same confusion and heartbreak. We made it past the harsh part to begin healing and living happy, love-filled lives. And so can you.

The first step to making a good life is taking good care of yourself.

Recognizing Signs It’s Time to Seek Help

  • Persistent Sadness or Low Mood: Feeling “off” more often than not, with difficulty finding joy in anything.
  • Lack of Energy or Motivation: Struggling to get through daily tasks, even after rest.
  • Changes in Sleep or Appetite: Sleeping too much or too little, or eating differently without a clear reason.
  • Difficulty Concentrating: Feeling mentally foggy, distracted, or unable to focus.
  • Irritability or Increased Sensitivity: Getting upset easily or feeling overwhelmed by little things.
  • Numbing or Avoidance Behaviors: Turning to food, substances, or endless scrolling to block out your emotions.
  • Withdrawal from Others: Avoiding people or feeling disconnected, even when you want connection.
  • A Growing Sense of Hopelessness: Thinking “What’s the point?” or feeling like things will never improve.
  • Intrusive Negative Thoughts: Criticizing yourself constantly or feeling unworthy.
  • Risky or Impulsive Behavior: Acting recklessly, like driving dangerously or abusing substances.
  • Thoughts of Self-Harm or Suicide: Feeling like a burden or thinking everyone would be better off without you.
Losing Hope?

Immediate Steps to Take

1. Talk to Somebody
Reaching out can feel overwhelming, but it’s often the first step toward feeling better. Whether it’s a trusted friend, coworker, or someone from an online community, connection makes a difference. You don’t have to face this alone. If you don’t have anyone you’re comfortable calling, start with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988. They’re there for you, and you don’t need to feel suicidal to talk to them.

2. Talk to a Professional
A therapist, especially one experienced in trauma or cult recovery, can help you navigate these feelings and find a way forward. If therapy feels out of reach financially, community mental health centers, social services, or crisis lines may offer free or low-cost options. Any therapy is usually better than waiting for the perfect therapy.

3. Use Emergency Resources
If things feel urgent, don’t wait. Call 911 or go to the nearest hospital if you feel like you cannot keep yourself safe. The crisis line can also recommend resources for ongoing support.

  • 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 (Available 24/7)
  • Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 (Available 24/7)

Coping Strategies You Can Start Right Now

Taking small steps can be a powerful way to regain your footing while you work on getting help and getting better. Little actions may seem minor, but the commitment to yourself offers some relief and helps you build momentum. Here are some ideas:

Losing Hope?
  • Establish Routines: Even small routines, like waking up at the same time daily, can provide a sense of stability.
  • Practice Self-Care: Eat nourishing food, drink plenty of water, or take short walks. Even small steps matter.
  • Try Mindfulness: Deep breathing or simple guided meditations online can help calm you and quiet your thoughts.
  • Set Reachable Goals: Accomplish small but meaningful tasks. Even making your bed, doing laundry or running an errand can help you feel like you’re making progress. Each small step helps you reclaim a sense of control.
  • Utilize Self-Help Books: “Feeling Good” by David Burns is an especially useful self-help classic that may help if you’re not in the position to start therapy. (Some information about medication may be outdated, but most of the book is still relevant.)

You’re Not Alone

Leaving is no small thing. The pain, confusion, and loss can feel unbearable—but they’re not forever and they are survivable. You are not alone.

Reach out. Stay. Give yourself a chance to learn who you really are and build a life that suits you. It gets easier. Promise. ♥